idk when we decided that explaining yourself shouldn’t be part of an apology but like. if someone was a dick to me and apologizes but I still don’t understand why they did it I’m not gonna feel any better
“Sorry for hurting your feelings earlier. I was trying to say x, but I guess it came across wrong. I don’t think you’re stupid.”
or
“Sorry I snapped at you. I didn’t get enough sleep last night so my patience is a little low today.”
is a better apology than
“I want you to know that I am sorry that my actions offended you. I take full accountability for my actions and I am listening and learning. I hear you.”
a cosplay photo so old it was taken on actual film (which explains the streaks from my scanner) and the con we were at doesn’t even exist anymore. it was around 13 years ago actually now that I think about it.
[image description: a scanned photo of a Himemiya Anthy cosplayer sitting at a cafe table. They are looking at the camera while they drink from a teacup. They are dressed in Anthy’s school uniform and wearing a purple wig styled with Anthy’s updo. There is a little stuffed Chuchu on their shoulder. End description]
if on something like giving the option of a gift of food you are like “but what if i AM crossing a boundary/being rude” i’ll share an exchange between my therapist and myself i often think of:
me: “i just want to respect their boundaries”
therapist: “you can’t respect boundaries when they haven’t expressed them. those aren’t their boundaries, those are your assumptions.”
This is about the time Twitter had a meltdown and attacked a woman for *checks notes* making chili for her neighbours.
May comic! Happy mental health awareness month. 🐝 Comic brought to you by my constant worry that I don’t exist if I have nothing to show for myself.
Advice to my past self: Read about burnout. Stretch. Stand up. Get lunch. Ask for extensions. Get help. Sleep. Take time off if you need to, don’t ask. Take care of yourself.
Last night I had a dream I woke up to find that my house had been turned into a Smart House with every wall being a digital screen including the roof so I could see it even laying on bed and the Siri voice said “Don’t worry. You are perfectly safe in your Apple Smart Home™️” knowing I have a BIG phobia of intruders especially at night and it continued with “Let’s explore the neighborhood from the comfort of your home” so it opened google maps and accidentally zoomed past a shitty jpeg of the girl from The Ring standing outside my house and it said “ignore that”. woke up laughing
Elderly women are an extremely important demographic for feminism. If a woman cannot be childless and then live comfortably taken care of in her old age, then there is still coercive incentive for children. Social security and elderly womens programs are very important.
“The orphaned elderly” is terminology used in the elder law field to describe those who, due to a lack of younger family members/or lack of relationship with said family members, find themselves in precarious positions as they age and need more support both financially and physically.
the meme of today of these japanese dogs i follow is this app that you take pictures of food and it tells you the calorie count and people are just posting how many calories their dogs are
my favorite way of participating in some fandoms is from the bleachers. i’m in the nosebleed seats with a pair of binoculars watching a full on bloodbath in the arena below, having the time of my life.
my favorite genre is “kitchen sink” tbqh. yes i want your metaphysical space opera Gothic haunted house horror-comedy. yes i want your medieval road trip heist mystery. give me time traveling werewolves and noir detective robots teaming up to fight alien supervillains. i want this sundae with every topping in the shop
This post expresses my desires. Give Me The Weird
Something More Than Night by Ian Tregillis - pitch-perfect noir mystery set in dystopian Heaven, also there are time slips
Yiddish for Pirates by Gary Barwin - super Jewish historical fiction featuring the Spanish Inquisition, star-crossed lovers, and Caribbean piracy, as narrated by an African Grey parrot
The City We Became by N.K. Jemisin - New York City becomes self-aware and embodied in the minds of select, random people, is instantly attacked by Lovecraftian entity, starts with battle against tentacle monster that’s won with an umbrella and an antique taxi to give you some idea.
Eifelheim by Michael Flynn - alien first contact in medieval Germany, features quantum drives, the synchronicity of medieval philosophy and scientific knowledge, a battle against the town down the mountain, and the Black Death
Middlegame by Seanan McGuire - found family, telepathy, time travel, alchemy, deconstruction of portal fantasies, ancient Greek ideas about math, music, and the nature of the universe, and also a spin on Frankenstein
His Majesty’s Dragon by Naomi Novik - alternate Regency England where they have a dragon air force (but so does Napoleon). Continue the series to get international travel and the dragons unionizing to get their “human” rights.
Among Others by Jo Walton - epistolary boarding school coming of age novel that doubles as a classic SF rec list and also there are fairies and the MC can do magic
The Diamond Age by Neal Stephenson - science fiction with super-advanced nanotech where everyone lives in gated community-countries based on Aesthetic™ and also there’s an orphan girl who gets a talking book (made by Neo-Victorians) that changes her life
Child of a Hidden Sea by A.M. Dellamonica - new adult portal fantasy about a nature photographer, with coming-of-age vibes, magic, a water world where almost everyone lives on tall ships, and ecological themes
The Eyre Affair by Jasper Fforde - mystery novel set in a 1980s with rampant literary fandom, cloned dodos, an apparent national dislike of toast, featuring a detective who’s tasked with rescuing Jane Eyre from a terrorist who wants to erase it from history, and that’s only skimming the surface of the weirdness
